Online dating is serious business; but, in today’s world of Tindering, Christian Mingle and Plenty of Fish you might as well give up on meeting someone face to face. Of course, if you were able to get your eyes off your iPhone screen and back into real life, you might (just might) see something you are interested in. Naw, that’s probably not going to happen. So if you’re serious about trying to find Mr. Right or Mrs. Right here are some helpful tips to guide you in your search. Good luck!
Identify your mission. Yes, this is a mission here people. You need to know what you want, what you don’t want and what you absolutely can’t live without. Some people are looking for love; some people are looking to hook up and others well they have to think long and hard about what they really seek – companionship maybe? Do your inner homework.
Start with Attraction: First and foremost you should be identifying appearance. Yes, that sounds shallow; but, seriously – think about it. There has to be some basic form of physical attraction. Chemistry is easily found; but, electrifying chemical reactions are rare. Stay on point.
Know Your Market: It’s important to know your online dating market. This is going to be based on age, location and income level. Take a couple steps further to learn what the single man, single woman ratio is in your state. It’s pretty eye opening and may the odds ever be in your favor.
Be Safe: It’s important to note here that you should at all times be safe. Always meet strangers in public places and do not give them access to personal information until you are able to get to know them. Also, if you are dating someone get their dirt. Like its 2015, the information is available. Of course you don’t want to dig yourself a hole of obsession; but, at least make sure they are not a murderer or have some psycho ex trying to sabotage their lives and the people they bring into it.
Try Out Online Dating Sites: There are a million dating sites out there. I suggest trying one or two at a time. Get on there, see the quality of the “market” and then pick a site that you think works. Let’s face it if you have too many dating profiles going on at once, it’s going to get too time consuming. You can find a list of the top sites here.
Create a Profile: Your profile is a chance to generate qualified candidates. You can do this by creating a profile that tells people exactly what you want without making it a big turn off. Let’s remember that core values are not negotiable. If you value family, career goals and honesty and the other person values sex and alcohol, it’s probably not going to work out. So why not stop them at the gate. Write something short, simple and to the point. You can change it at any time.
Date Slow: You must have patience. If you want a lasting relationship you need to do the work upfront. Think of it as a long interview process. You’re essentially combining two lives and everything that comes with that – friends, family, goals, finances, etc. etc. America has a 53 percent divorce rate. Clearly those people didn’t think very much about how the hell they were going to make a long term relationship work.
Don’t Give Up: Online dating sites and dating itself can get very frustrating; but, it really is a trial and error process just like anything else. Every date you go on will not turn into marriage. Again, have patience and realize that it’s a process. Don’t give up on your mission and most importantly enjoy the ride. Learn to laugh at failure and make butterflies your new hobby. Forgive disappointment and move on.