It’s probably not the first time that you’ve heard about hickeys, also known as “love bites”. You are most probably aware what of it, especially if you’ve been a teenager or are currently one. But what is a hickey? It is a dark red or purple mark on a person’s skin caused by intense concentrated suction. People typically get hickeys on their neck, since during passionate kissing, the neck is easy to access. However, you can get hickeys anywhere on your body.
There are times when light biting can be involved in the act, however, hickeys primarily occur when someone sucks vigorously on another person’s skin until small blood vessels burst. The pressure breaks capillaries (tiny blood vessels) under the surface of your skin. Petechiae are then formed; these are tiny, circular, non-raised patches that appear on the skin. When there is a collection of these blood spots, these would then form a larger dark spot, which is basically a bruise. The bruise may change color after a while from red, dark purple to yellow.
However, unlike a bruise that you get when you bump into the corner of a table, a hickey is burdened with a lot of different sexual undertone.
If you are romantically involved with someone and you are proud to publicly flaunt that, getting a hickey during a passionate moment with that person would be acceptable. In fact, you wouldn’t care who sees it. On the flip side, it can also be embarrassing. Particularly if you got a hickey during a random drunken hook-up.
Regardless of who you got your hickey from, according to Dr. Jessica O’Reilly, Ph.D., host of the @SexWithDrJess Podcast, “I’ve heard people comment that a hickey is unprofessional (for women), which is interesting considering people arrive at work with all sorts of bruises — from sports, workplace injuries and even bar brawls — yet we’re more likely to judge the woman who was kissed passionately. Go figure.” So, it is safe to say that people, women in particular would want to find ways of how to remove hickeys.
Here is a guide in understanding it more and on how to remove or conceal hickeys.