When you are in a long and loving relationship, your partner is usually your confidant, your best friend and your sounding board. But when you find yourself speaking to other people to share your inner most worries, issues and secrets, then there’s a very big chance that your relationship is not in a good place. Relationship and sex expert, Dr. Kat Van Kirk, explains “You may stop asking each other for advice and feedback on both major and minor life situations. This means one of you may have developed a different friendship – or relationship –that serves that purpose, or you no longer trust one another’s input.”