{"id":68220,"date":"2020-03-31T22:15:22","date_gmt":"2020-04-01T02:15:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/awesomejelly.com\/?p=68220"},"modified":"2020-04-01T23:22:27","modified_gmt":"2020-04-02T03:22:27","slug":"signs-that-your-relationship-is-in-trouble-t2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/awesomejelly.com\/signs-that-your-relationship-is-in-trouble-t2\/","title":{"rendered":"29 Signs That Your Relationship Is In Trouble"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Eharmoney<\/p><\/div>\n

As the saying goes, falling in love is easy but staying in love is hard to do. Ask anyone that has been in a serious relationship, and we doubt that they will tell you otherwise. Relationships take work, even the easy ones. But how do you know when your relationship is actually in trouble? What are the signs that will allow you to know whether your significant other is ready to call it quits? Before you find yourself left all alone to mend your broken heart, find out from experts on what exactly you should watch out for.<\/h6>\n
Here are 29 signs that your relationship is in trouble that you shouldn\u2019t ignore.<\/strong>
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You Have Different Values<\/h2>\n
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Beliefnet<\/p><\/div>\n

When couples first meet and the attraction is strong, more often than not, the fact that they don\u2019t necessarily share the same values is not really an issue. But eventually, as time goes by and the honeymoon stage is over, all these differences that were pushed aside come rushing forward and causing some very big problems. A certified relationship expert for Maple Holistics, Adina Mahalli, chimes in, explaining, \u201cWhile it\u2019s normal to differ on some views, you and your partner should be agreeing on the same major values. Your core set of values is what guides you through life. Whether or not you both like Chinese food isn\u2019t going to make or break the relationship, but something like wanting to start a family might. If you and your partner differ on major values, your romantic relationship might be in trouble.\u201d
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You No Longer Fight<\/h2>\n
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Cheat Sheet<\/p><\/div>\n

It may sound counterproductive to be in a relationship and fight, but actually, fighting can be productive when done right. When it\u2019s done fairly, without being emotionally abusive, it allows conversation to flow and issues to get fixed, plus it\u2019s proof that you have fire in your relationship. According to the CEO and co-founder of the Jewish dating app JCrush Sonya Kreizman, \u201cCo-existing is a silent killer. When both of you become indifferent and agreeable instead of fighting with passion for what you believe should change in the relationship, it\u2019s a sign the relationship might be heading towards its end.\u201d
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You Lie About Money<\/h2>\n
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NBC News<\/p><\/div>\n

For couples that finally decide to tie the knot, many times the advice that is given to them is \u201cto never fight about money.\u201d So what happens when you start lying about your finances and how much you spend that you\u2019re keeping it from your partner, then that\u2019s definitely one relationship trouble sign that you should watch out for. According to a financial analyst, \u201cFinancial infidelity refers to secretive money-related behavior, whether that\u2019s secretly setting cash aside or covertly maxing out credit card balances.\u201d If you are hiding things from your partner or don\u2019t have the same end goal when it comes to your finances, chances are your relationship will suffer because of it.
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The Trust is Gone<\/h2>\n
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Small Biz Club<\/p><\/div>\n

You can\u2019t be in a happy relationship when you don\u2019t trust your partner, so when the trust is gone, then you know you\u2019re headed for trouble. Relationship expert Mahalli confirms this, \u201cAny relationship, whether romantic or not, is founded on the basis of trust. With this in mind, if you and your partner don\u2019t trust one another, your relationship might be in trouble. Whether it\u2019s stemming from you or your partner, you need to deal with your trust issues in order to have a chance at a healthy relationship.\u201d If you want to make your long-term relationship work, then you need to work on trust issues, regardless of where they are coming from.
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You Make Everything An Argument<\/h2>\n
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Personal Excellence<\/p><\/div>\n

Although arguing in a relationship can be considered healthy, when couples make everything an argument, there\u2019s nothing ahead by trouble Founder of the Sage Institute for Family Development and clinical sexologist, Lawrence Siegel explains, \u201cWhen couples seem to be arguing over the most insignificant things, they are probably looking for that proverbial straw that breaks the camel\u2019s back.\u201d He adds, \u201cAt this point, there\u2019s often a lot of passive-aggressive behavior creeping in, like subtle little jabs to push him or her away. There\u2019s so much resentment built up that it\u2019s tough to come back.\u201d
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No Dilating Pupils<\/h2>\n
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Amazon<\/p><\/div>\n

It may sound silly but according to a body language expert, if your pupils no longer dilate when you look at each other, then it doesn\u2019t look good. Patti Wood iterates, \u201cWhen you\u2019re sexually attracted to someone, your pupils will dilate in a moment of intimacy. It happens subconsciously, so it\u2019s a good indicator of your significant other\u2019s interest in you.\u201d So the next time you are getting intimate with your mate, try looking them straight in the eyes and see if they still have the hots for you. If they do, then you\u2019re all good in the hood.
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You\u2019re Always on the Defensive<\/h2>\n
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The Ladies Coach<\/p><\/div>\n

Another sign that your relationship is in trouble, is when arguments or even just normal conversations occur, and you find yourself always on the defensive, or your partner is. Relationship expert Mahalli shares, \u201cIf you find that you\u2019re always on the defense with your partner, that\u2019s not a good sign. Your significant other should be someone who nurtures your growth and helps you to be the best version of yourself, not somebody who you feel that you need to explain or excuse yourself to. If you\u2019re on the defense more often than not, it\u2019s a red flag that your relationship is in trouble.\u201d
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You\u2019re No Longer Each Other\u2019s Sounding Board<\/h2>\n
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Thought Catalog<\/p><\/div>\n

When you are in a long and loving relationship, your partner is usually your confidant, your best friend and your sounding board. But when you find yourself speaking to other people to share your inner most worries, issues and secrets, then there\u2019s a very big chance that your relationship is not in a good place. Relationship and sex expert, Dr. Kat Van Kirk, explains \u201cYou may stop asking each other for advice and feedback on both major and minor life situations. This means one of you may have developed a different friendship \u2013 or relationship \u2013that serves that purpose, or you no longer trust one another\u2019s input.\u201d
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You Don\u2019t Discuss The Long-Term<\/h2>\n
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A Conscious Rethink<\/p><\/div>\n

Let\u2019s face it. If you don\u2019t see your partner in your future, then chances are the partnership is going to be over before it even truly began. Dating specialist Celia Schweyer explains how this is the end of any relationship. \u201cIt\u2019s either they sound hesitant or dodge the topic completely when making critical plans for the future such as moving in together, marriage, or having kids. This red flag is also applicable on smaller plans you could be making with your partner. They will seem unexcited with the idea of having trips with your family or going on a vacation together.\u201d Besides, why even bother to stay with someone if you can\u2019t picture them in your foreseeable future?
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You\u2019re Never Truly There<\/h2>\n
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Identity Magazine<\/p><\/div>\n

Don\u2019t you hate it when you\u2019re out to dinner or hanging out with your partner, but they\u2019re not actually there? They may be there physically, but their minds are definitely somewhere else. This is one huge sign that your relationship is definitely on its way to a bad place. Relationship counselor and clinical psychotherapist Kevon Owen says, \u201cYou choices reveal your priorities. Are you choosing time together? Are you choosing to give your full attention when you are together? Or are you choosing careers, friends, and distractions? Are you choosing to look at a person or a phone screen?\u201d And depending on what you answer, then you\u2019ll know whether your relationship is going to last the long-haul, or not.
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You Don\u2019t Bother To Join Family Functions<\/h2>\n
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The Independent<\/p><\/div>\n

It may feel very Romeo and Juliet at the beginning of your relationship if your families don\u2019t get along, but as time passes, it\u2019s just going to get more and more difficult. Dating expert Shweyer expounds, \u201cIf your partner is constantly making an excuse not to get to know the important people in your life, he or she might not be too invested in getting to know you. He or she does not necessarily have to love everyone in your circle. But they must, at the very least, make an effort to respect you and your relationship with your loved ones.\u201d
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You Prefer It When They\u2019re Not Around<\/h2>\n
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My Today’s Horoscrope<\/p><\/div>\n

What does that say about your relationship if you actually enjoy yourself more when your significant partner is not around? Just think about it, why even be in a committed partnership if you never want that person to be there for both the good and the bad stuff. If you notice that you choose to go to events knowing they won\u2019t be around, or you\u2019re choosing to hang out with anyone else just so you don\u2019t have to be with him or her, might as well do yourself a favor now and end it rather than prolong the madness.
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You Feel Obliged To Be With Them<\/h2>\n
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Psicologia Online<\/p><\/div>\n

Sometimes people stay in relationships because they\u2019ve been with their partner forever. Maybe you\u2019ve been with your high school sweetheart since, well, high school and you just can\u2019t imagine a life without them. But if that\u2019s the only thing that\u2019s keeping you with them, then it\u2019s time to say goodbye. Or possibly that obligation to remain in a relationship with someone could be because you\u2019ve gone through some very serious stuff and you just don\u2019t want to cause more pain. Whatever the reason may be, if feels more like a burden than a benefit, then it\u2019s time to say goodbye.
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You Have a Feeling Of Loneliness<\/h2>\n
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David Samadi<\/p><\/div>\n

Feeling lonely makes people do stupid things, including remain in a relationship that has been over for years. If you happen to be in a relationship yet you still feel alone, then that\u2019s already a sign that things are not going well between you two. According to CEO of JCrush, Kreizman, \u201cIf you feel alone even when you are together and you feel like your partner doesn\u2019t have your back, it\u2019s incredibly lonely.\u201d Chances are that if you feel that way now, there\u2019s no way that it\u2019s going to get any better later on.
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There\u2019s No Intimacy<\/h2>\n
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George Herald<\/p><\/div>\n

What\u2019s a wonderful relationship with no intimacy? Even for those that are too old to \u201cget things up\u201d they still have ways to remain affectionate where it counts. Relationship expert Schweyer goes on to explain, \u201cSex plays a big part in a relationship. It is more than just an activity that you both do, but also a clear manifestation of intimacy between you and your partner. Unless you both have a valid reason why you\u2019re skipping activities in bed, you should start checking the status of your relationship.\u201d
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You\u2019re Not Attracted To Each Other Anymore<\/h2>\n
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Dating<\/p><\/div>\n

If sex isn\u2019t happening, then there\u2019s also a big chance that you are no longer attracted to each other either. Family therapist and licensed marriage counselor, Dr. Ian Kerner shares, \u201cCouples are severely challenged when there\u2019s a libido gap that cannot be bridged. When one partner feels persistently rejected and the other partner feels persistently pressured, it\u2019s a recipe for failure. I\u2019ve seen many relationships fail due to desire discrepancy.\u201d If you try to get the spark back, yet it seems that nothing is helping, then chances are your relationship is truly over.
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Their Friends Act Icy Towards You<\/h2>\n
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Business Insider<\/p><\/div>\n

Even if couples have been together for a long period of time, they normally have their own set of friends that each person confides in. If one partner begins to notice that their significant other\u2019s friends are quite icy when it comes to you, it must be because of what has been said about you recently. According to another relationship counselor, \u201cTheir friends can be a great tell. If their friends suddenly turn cold or distant, this may be a hint that they have been talking and a move or breakup is in your future.\u201d
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They\u2019re Constantly Criticizing You<\/h2>\n
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The Modern Man<\/p><\/div>\n

If you\u2019re in a relationship and you notice that your partner is always criticizing you, making you feel like you can\u2019t do anything right, there\u2019s a strong chance that you won\u2019t be together too much longer. Who would want to remain in a relationship with someone who is forever making them feel horrible about themselves and all the choices that you make? Even if you\u2019re married and you\u2019re bound by a contract to remain together forever, being constantly criticized just might have them filing for divorce sooner rather than later.
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They\u2019re Always Assuming The Worst Of You<\/h2>\n
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Job Vacancies Dubai<\/p><\/div>\n

Just like how they constantly criticize you, if your partner is always assuming the worst of you, how can your relationship last? Who would want to go home to a place where the person who is supposed to love you, care for you and lift you up when you\u2019re down, does the exact opposite? Even if the relationship didn\u2019t start out that way, if it ends up like that after a year or more together, it\u2019s probably not going to go much further either.
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They Compare You To Past Relationships<\/h2>\n
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Marriage Missions<\/p><\/div>\n

Probably one of the biggest relationship trouble signs is when your partner is forever comparing your relationship to one in their past. Whether it was a good relationship or a bad one, no one wants to be told that their current relationship reminds their partner of an old failed one. Many times, this also means that your partner has many unresolved issues from both their past and their past relationship, so yours is never going to work until they\u2019ve dealt with whatever issues they have yet to get over.
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Your Social Life Is Kept Separate<\/h2>\n
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iStock<\/p><\/div>\n

Just like if you prefer it when your partner is never around, if you keep your social life separate as well, then it doesn\u2019t look good for your relationship or for the future of the relationship. It\u2019s normal to have time away from each other, as well as spend time with other friends, but if every important activity is done independently, how do you ever expect your partnership to ever work out? If you can\u2019t enjoy doing things together socially, then you might as well look for someone to be with that you can.
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You Have The Same Argument Over and Over<\/h2>\n
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TravelPulse<\/p><\/div>\n

Yes, arguing is probably one of the most important things that can help a relationship grow, except of course when it\u2019s destructive or abusive. But when you have that one argument about that one issue that you both just can\u2019t get over, chances are things are never going to get resolved. Sadly, that issue will probably just grow and grow until it becomes the one major issue that you just can’t seemingly get over. And sadly it will put an end to a relationship that was probably over already anyway.
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You Can\u2019t Be Vulnerable Around Them Anymore<\/h2>\n
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Gemini Man Secrets<\/p><\/div>\n

Your partner is supposed to be your person, no matter what. They should be the one you go to when you\u2019re feeling sad, happy, defeated, or victorious right? But if you can\u2019t be vulnerable around them, or if you feel like you can\u2019t be real and raw with them, there\u2019s a huge possibility that the relationship won\u2019t last for much longer. When that feeling of trust and comfort is gone, then so is the relationship.
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You\u2019ve Become Withdrawn<\/h2>\n
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Shutter<\/p><\/div>\n

How can a relationship work when one person in the partnership has become increasingly withdrawn? When one person starts to put up walls against the other, then there\u2019s no chance that things will work out in the long run. Stonewalling, as it\u2019s called, is when one person shuts down and closes off from the other person. Family therapy Kirk Honda also has a name, calling it \u201chostile quietness,\u201d explaining, \u201cWhen a couple gets together and they have their first fight, they typically don\u2019t stonewall right away. Stonewalling occurs many, many fights later. Then, when you see it happening, it typically is a sign that the relationship will end soon.\u201d
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You\u2019ve Stopped Doing Things Together<\/h2>\n
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AskMen<\/p><\/div>\n

When people are seeing each other, they normally enjoy hanging out together and doing all the things they love. Usually at the beginning of a relationship, couples will do anything to make each other happy, like going to yoga together, watching movies, eating out, going for a run, and tons of other fun stuff. But if all of that has stopped and you can no longer find things to do together, your status as a couple won\u2019t last very long.
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You Stop Doing That Things You Enjoy<\/h2>\n
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Insider<\/p><\/div>\n

According to marriage and family therapist Doreen Meister, partnerships that have issues with control don\u2019t tend to last long. When two people are in a healthy and happy relationship, they don\u2019t feel the need to control each other and what their partners do. But when there\u2019s a battle of power and control, eventually something\u2019s gotta give. Meister says, \u201cIf you\u2019re starting to narrow your life, then you\u2019re ultimately not flourishing, and the relationship won\u2019t flourish.\u201d
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Your Arguments Go Nowhere<\/h2>\n
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Huffington Post<\/p><\/div>\n

Just like those arguments that happen over and over again, for those that don\u2019t go anywhere either, the end game is just the same. While fights in relationships are inevitable and necessary, when they become mean and feel like they are never going to get resolved, the chances that they will keep happening with no end is pretty resolute. Be sure to watch out for these relationship trouble signs so that you know whether it\u2019s worth fighting for.
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You Can\u2019t Even Remember Why You Fell In Love With Them<\/h2>\n
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WeddingBee<\/p><\/div>\n

Every relationship has to start somewhere, which is normally due to an attraction between two people. Whether it\u2019s their smile, the way they laugh, or maybe how incredibly sweet they are, something pulls you towards the other. But if things aren\u2019t going to well, and you can\u2019t even remember what it was that made you fall in love with them in the first place, then things are probably doomed to fail. According to Professor of counseling Kirk Honda, the whole not remembering, \u201cThat\u2019s a sign that so much negativity has become infused in the relationship that it\u2019s literally rewritten the story of their relationship.\u201d<\/h6>\n

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You\u2019re Already In Love With Someone Else<\/h2>\n
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HealthyPlace<\/p><\/div>\n

Probably the one sign that doesn\u2019t really need any explanation is if you or your partner has already fallen in love with someone else. How else could you make the relationship work if you are no longer in love with them and actually have feelings for someone else? Trust issues, problems, anger, frustration, betrayal and tons of other things will arise that will make the relationship impossible to work out in the first place. And even if the other person doesn\u2019t find out, you\u2019ll just be lying about it inside your heart, which will play havoc in your head.<\/h6>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

As the saying goes, falling in love is easy but staying in love is hard to do. Ask anyone that has been in a serious relationship, and we doubt that they will tell you otherwise. Relationships take work, even the easy ones. But how do you know when your relationship is actually in trouble? What are the signs that will allow you to know whether your significant other is ready to call it quits? Before you find yourself left all alone to mend your broken heart, find out from experts on what exactly you should watch out for. Here are <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":68230,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"wprm-recipe-roundup-name":"","wprm-recipe-roundup-description":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[29],"tags":[483,1042,26995,26994],"yst_prominent_words":[26993,9500,14005,9811,9048,26992,9897,15874,26986,26989,26987,26991,9911,26988,9047,10108,22110,10075,26990,9200],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/awesomejelly.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/68220"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/awesomejelly.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/awesomejelly.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/awesomejelly.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/awesomejelly.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=68220"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/awesomejelly.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/68220\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":68238,"href":"https:\/\/awesomejelly.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/68220\/revisions\/68238"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/awesomejelly.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/68230"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/awesomejelly.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=68220"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/awesomejelly.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=68220"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/awesomejelly.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=68220"},{"taxonomy":"yst_prominent_words","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/awesomejelly.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/yst_prominent_words?post=68220"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}